27-01-2021 11:22 PM
27-01-2021 11:22 PM
In the past 3 years I’ve been made redundant, seperated from my husband of 24 years and have been caring for my elderly parents. My parents have got care needs beyond what I can provide. I recently had a terrible argument with my brother and ruined our relationship. My parents will no longer speak to me because I think we should sell the house and they should go into a nursing home and due to my relationship with my brother. I am a child survivor and am currently suffering PTSD due to all this stress. I really feel unsupported and am not doing well. If it weren’t for my kids I’d probably give up completely. I’m not sure where to turn. I see a psych and have been given medication but feel like giving up.
28-01-2021 12:07 AM
28-01-2021 12:07 AM
Hi @GBN
Please don’t give up.
You’ve suffered some terrible losses. Each on their own warrant time to grieve and adjust to without having them collide together.
I’m glad you found the forums and hope that you will find support and understanding here.
Do you also speak with a counsellor or psychologist ? Psychiatrists often do not offer much talk time. At this point getting as much support as you can is important to help you through.
Caring for elderly parents is challenging, especially when they are no longer managing in their home. Now they are not speaking with you perhaps your brother will need to help or they will realise they are not coping. Having distance at this time might help them to realise, and your brother, of the strain of meeting their needs.
I hope writing it down has helped a little.
Please take care of yourself.
I hope you can find a little bit of peace and comfort to keep you going.
WinterSun
28-01-2021 08:05 AM
28-01-2021 08:05 AM
28-01-2021 11:13 AM
28-01-2021 11:13 AM
@GBN little wonder you are feeling overwhelmed
I suggest to take some time out.. .and if they're not talking to you that won't be too hard... and do something for you!
It might be a whole day watching netflix, having a weekend away, a day out with your kids or, like I do when I need some "me" time, locking myself in the craft room and ordering take-away.
Breathing space and some decent sleep make all the difference to me.
Assume you are familiar with https://www.myagedcare.gov.au/ ???? They are a great landing place to look into what other help your parents can get that may help them stay home a bit longer. My in-laws have someone to do the heavy cleaning and gardening now. Meals on Wheels are awesome if mum can't keep up with the cooking anymore.
I'm sure there will also be carers support groups for people looking after elderly relatives.
Don't give up.
xoxo
28-01-2021 05:29 PM
28-01-2021 05:29 PM
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